Too old and too young in the workforce? Huh?

Since graduating University, I have frequently come up against the issue of "Maybe when you have more experience" or "we are looking for someone who has had more time in the industry". Even if I do have all the "experience" and "time in the industry" you are looking for, really what you were saying to me is "You're too young and we can't take you seriously because of that".

I was lucky to get a job in the USA that didn't care about my age at all as they were very much welcoming of all walks of life and all ages as long as you had the chops for the job. I learnt so much there than I have since coming back to Australia. 

Then, I had just turned 23. The volunteers and staff didn't care about your age at all (apart from making sure you were over the age of 21 before they offered you a beer) and it made the job easier. Frankly I don't know if I would have lasted as long as I did if it wasn't for that being a non-issue. I am sure that this isn't the case for everyone working with volunteers in America, but for me it always felt like people wanted to be there and would take on any advice or opinions you had even if they had been there 10 years longer than you. You were the staff member tasked with running the program, they were the volunteer. 

Back here in Australia however, this isn't the case. First, I want to precursor this with I have been volunteering for various organisations since I was 15 years old and I continue to do so (and likely will for the rest of my life). I absolutely understand when someone steps into a role above you with less experience within the organisation/cause you are passionate about, that you will look at them with suspicious eyes and a raised eyebrow. I expect no less from volunteers who have been deeply involved and have done amazing things for a cause; clearly they have been the ones who have made it what it is today. 

But, there is being hesitant and then there is being outright dismissive. The moment I stepped into roles back into Australia, I was met with "What would you know? You're too young." At this point I am 26 (I seem to interview for jobs before my birthday and start them after my birthday I've just realised. I was 25 when interviewed but didn't start until I was 26). 

Now interestingly enough, I was too old now for a lot of roles I wanted to get. There are environmental jobs here that have a cut off of 24-25 years old. So I have spent 2 years in New York working my ass off to get experience and to increase my chances of full time work in Australia when we moved back. But instead it seems I have missed my prime time to get hired. So after about 20 job applications for the last 5 months of work in NY I land a job. It's only 3 days per week but the organisation and it's cause are something that I wanted to get behind wholeheartedly and was excited for.

I was frustrated. My boss at the time was only 2 years older than me (my current age now, 27 going on 28) but he was taken more seriously that I was. In all likelyhood a portion of this was likely a gender issue but I was also seeing bias being passed onto volunteers I had brought on that were University students. They were new, what would they know? Millennials, they aren't productive or socially conscious for society and are just using us for a stepping stone. They don't care. And that was the bulk of my problem. 

Now, I have gone through 3 bosses in the last 2.5 years of being with this organisation. When this happens, myself and the other staff member take on the workload as well as our volunteer President who isn't much older than I. I ran the organisation for months while we searched to replace my boss and yet, I still wasn't taken seriously due to my age/experience. 

I have been open with my job that I am always looking for more work, but I can barely get in the door. Why? Because I don't have enough experience. I am now 27 going up against people who are 10 years older than me who have 10 years more experience than me because there has be a sharp decline in environmental work. There isn't as much funding out there anymore and mass job cuts from our major environmental governing body about 4 years ago (DELWP - this name has changed about 4 times), caused a lot of people to hunt for the 3 days per week low paying jobs that are entry level. They are old enough for the job but I am not. 

I'm likely never going to be able to contribute my passion, my experience, my ideas in any major way because I am too old and too young for the workforce. This isn't just my case, many others around my same age in the environmental industry are facing the same issue. 

I thought it would be better when I was older, but it seems to just be getting worse. This won't stop me from applying for more jobs and being hopeful though. 

Here is a great video which really summarises what Millennials come up against. 

A female gamer, the constant whine.

As most of you may know, I am pretty into gaming. Love me some good ol' zombie murder. But there is something that always dampens my mood:

The identification of my ovaries.

It's a tale that is told over and over again, as a female or anyone female sounding has been verbally abused while gaming. Not even gaming, shit, we get attacked in general over the internet.

So, I have a deeper voice than the usual lady. My voice online apparently sounds like a prepubescent boy so I actually have that bias against me at the start when I am playing. But then when I explain my age they slowly figure out that I am a girl. Rather than the fun banter we were having prior to this moment and the team work it turns into more often than not "SHOW US YOUR TITS! GIRLL I WANT TO SKULL FUCK YOU" "ARE YOU HOT? LETS DATE" or my favourite "YOU MUST BE FAT AND UGLY BECAUSE YOU ARE GOOD AT THIS GAME".

Now let's talk about the last one for a second. The last one usually comes after their inital "smooth talking" (hint, it's not smooth talking at all - see the first two comments) doesn't work. I have so many questions about this. If I reject you, it's clearly because I am unattractive? Apparently I have to be unattractive to be good at this game? Why is that? Because if I am hot I would be compliant with your offers of being skull fucked?

Now I am not saying all guys are like this. In fact the people I game with the most are guys I have met online and had some geniune great gaming fun with them. These guys were not and are not assholes and they haven't once treated me differently than any other gamer out there. I have been gaming with a core few for about 5 years. I brought up once with them about my usual hesitance with VOIPing (Voice over Internet Protocol - voice chatting) and they were shocked that indeed, it was a thing. Then, it happened. I chatted freely and without hesitation while playing with two of them and the rest of the team (who we had never played with before) went ape shit. The abuse was nothing out of the ordinary for me but as always disheartening. My mates couldn't believe it and abused them back with the same language and kicked them.

This has been something they have done for me which I am forever grateful for. When I explain to guys that this indeed is something we deal with every day, if they haven't done it themselves, they don't really believe me. But when I have a clan of guys backing me up saying "Yes, they literally asked her if they could skull fuck her and her mum" it reinforces that these people exsist.

Why did I rant about this now? Becuase today after I rejected someone after they asked me out and got asked for nudes they abused me for it. I got asked this via pm from a discord channel that I joined after gaming with some people who I had a hella fun time with. These other guys welcomed me into their community without bias and without need of nudes. But yet, this douche canoe who I have never spoken to or gamed decided it was okay to be a fuckwit.

Am I over reacting? No. You know why? Because I ignored a guy who was wolf whistling me on the street and saying some lude things late at night while I was walking. And because I ignored him he beat the shit out of me.

So why should women just "calm down it's just the internet" when this is what we deal with day to day. Guys who aren't douche canoes - Thank you. Thank you for being awesome and allowing us to have the same joy gaming as you. Please look out for your female gamers, I all for hurling banter at each other and telling people off when they are being an idiot while playing a game, That's just being a moron, that's got nothing to do with gender.

But those of you who are gender specific in your abuse...

Go skull fuck yourself.

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